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Can Lesbians be Church Queens — or Am I a Church Queen?

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Yes an “on the way to church” selfie.

Don’t roll your eyes. I am really need to know about this. Because I am feeling some kind of way…1.

I am pretty sure y’all know what church queens are (or can guess). It is a gay (often closeted) man in the church who sighs heavily and sucks their teeth when they see a more flamboyant gay man walk down the aisle at altar call. If you are trying to spot him, he can usually be seen sporting a pastel polkadot bow tie with matching pocket square (no shade).2

Okay so by virtue of my own definition, I can’t be a church queen. But I still feel some kind of way… Let me tell you why. Continue reading

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Sex and the Single-ish Life… or What Wet Dreams May Come

sex.jpgIf you follow me on twitter, you will know two things for sure. I revel in irreverence and I haven’t had sex since my 20s.

Don’t make that face. It is a mix of a long winded end to a LDR and a celibate period of self-discovery… or that’s what I tell myself. Hell even before my self imposed drought, my last few relationships were long distance. So the plan was clear when it came to knocking boots. If we are together in the same city, let alone the same bed, IT IS GOING DOWN. Boom-chicka-waa-waa. Continue reading

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10 Things To Know About: Nastassja and Lea of Spring Up Bow Ties

As a industry 9 to 5iver, I can honestly say it is hard for me to be excited about fashion nowadays. In a world built on superficial beauty, it is easy to get caught up in the polish without any purpose. So when I was introduced to the crew at Spring Up Bow Ties, I was psyched. Any group whose vision is violence-free campus communities in which students have equal access to higher education, as well as resources that reflect and respect their experiences, I support.

~KK Continue reading

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Tale of Two Prospects: The Drunk Dial Test

So I have been getting to know two OkCupid women lately 1. They both spoke to me in different ways2 and both know about this blog so I will keep my descriptions realllll cute.

Prospect 1: Masculine identified. Too cool for school. Successful in a high level LGBT related career. I am sure is hot shit in her circle. Great initial chemistry… now not so sure. She may or may not be that into me, and ambiguity makes me sleepy.

Prospect 2: Feminine identified. My mom would love her… if she were a man. Genuinely good person. Community based profession. Family oriented. No sparks at first (thought she would be a great friend)… now not so sure. I might just be that into her.

So last night was a test.. Continue reading

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Super Gay Movie Review: Geography Club

maki_blonskyFirst of all, I loved this movie. Hands down it was one of my favorite gay teen centered movies ever. It was cute without being cutesy and dramatic but not overwrought. If my school had a secret gay club, maybe I would’ve joined. But we didn’t, at least not that I know of…but if we had, I wish it could’ve been like this. Continue reading

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5 Reasons Why Every Straight Girl Needs a Lesbian #WingWoman

My night last night can be summed up in one Facebook post.

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And it hit me… every straight girl should have a lesbian wingman. Continue reading

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50 Thoughts Everyone Has At Our Lesbian of Color Dinner Series

Kinda like 55 Thoughts Everyone Has At Group Dinners but gayer… Continue reading

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SUPER GAY MOVIE OF THE WEEK: @ENTANGLEDSERIES SEASON 2 [WEB SERIES]

I have had my fill of lesbian drama. Ok. Let me restate that please. I am sick and tired of WATCHING lesbian drama on my digital devices. With that being said, I am all for lesbian comedy. It’s about time
someone came along with a sense of humor. I was beginning to lose faith in my sisters. We can’t all be so serious all the time can we? I am also sick of seeing black women languishing behind bars…which is
why, although it may be funny and full of lesbians, I haven’t seen Orange is The New Black. Right now, Entangled With You is giving me EVERYTHING. Continue reading

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Super Gay Movie Review: Velvet Goldmine

velvetgoldmineposterBefore I can even get started with this review, I must say these words:

Velvet Goldmine is one huge, unforgivingly beautiful mindf*ck from outer space.

Whew.

Now that I’ve gotten that off of my chest, I can finally talk about the
film. This review has been three months in the making, for good reason. Continue reading

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KRead: Black Bull, Ancestors and Me: My Life as a Lesbian Sangoma by Nkunzi Zandile Nkabinde

blackbull2I have always had a love for the study of people and culture. For those who don’t know, back a decade ago, I received my undergraduate degree in Sociology. I wanted to study deviant subcultures, and had all intentions of being a leading expert on the world’s oldest profession.

How that led me into a career in fashion photography is a whole other post…

The latest KRead book, Black Bull, Ancestors and Me: My Life as a Lesbian Sangoma has awaken every sociological and anthropological bone in my body.

Plot Snapshot: A memoir of Nkunzi Zandile Nkabinde, a lesbian sangoma (traditional healer), shares with us her personal journey of enlightenment through a traditional South African landscape.

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