First let me say I am sorry that I haven’t written much (if anything) in the last two weeks. My stepfather succumbed to pneumonia (after a lengthy decline) on February 16… Thank you for the thoughts and sentiments I received from those that knew about it.
Now back to the regularly scheduled K Word.
I’m sure you all think I am always writing about the black lesbian community more than the lesbian community as a whole… and this won’t change your mind. shrugs
Oprah. Whitney. Queen Latifah. Alicia Keys. Missy Elliot. Beyonce. What do these ladies have in common?
They are all powerful and successful women of color AND I have heard “secret lesbian” rumors about all of them in the last month… Okay maybe not Missy Elliot but that’s only because she hasn’t dropped a CD in a while.
Is it me or does this seem to be a black thing? I know I know, just like our conversation about labels, I am sure there are white celebrities dealing with this too like… umm… wait who?**
Even if some of these ladies are gay, which I know at least one is (don’t ask), why is it up to us to force them out the closet? At first I thought it was because we are just an intrusive (read: nosy as hell) society. And while that is true, I don’t think it is the only reason. We NEED/WANT an openly black lesbian superstar. We NEED/WANT someone in the public eye that we can identify with. Not ignoring her journey to this level but really today, who doesn’t love Ellen’s super lesbian self, dancing around the stage and posing with her beautiful wife? She has the power, success and fame to do just about whatever she wants. She serves as a extremely positive pop culture representation of a lesbian, especially a white one.
We want to see Oprah and Gayle in matching Vera Wang gowns. We want the Queen to be grand marshall on the pride float (and then not deny it has anything to do with being a lesbian… side eye). We wanted Beyonce (pre-marriage and baby, of course) to grab Bibi McGill‘s hand on stage at a concert with love in her eyes. Didn’t we all do a double take when cornrow and fedora wearing butch Alicia Keys was playing on that piano? Hell we even dug Whitney’s relationship with Robyn from the 90s out from the grave. We want our go-to Super Black Lesbian. Is that too much to ask?
I love Audre Lorde. I love Tracy Chapman… Lord knows I do, but umm THEY DON’T COUNT EITHER! no shade
I’m done. Thoughts?
**I’m only being slightly facetious, I’m really interested. Throw some names in the comment section please.