I think I have written and re-written this post a dozen times in my head. Sometimes I have even tried to put it on (virtual) paper but something would happen that would make me (read: give me an excuse) not to write it. And yes I know this is probably another one in a list of posts that won’t make me lesbian of the year, but it is something I feel I need to say out loud.
Kristi stop stalling…
GAY IS NOT THE NEW BLACK.
GAY MARRIAGE ISN’T THE MOST PRESSING ISSUE OF MY LIFETIME.
THE GAY RIGHTS MOVEMENTS IS NOT THE SAME AS THE BLACK CIVIL RIGHTS MOVEMENT.
I AM SICK AND TIRED OF PEOPLE TRYING TO CONVINCE ME, LET ALONE MY STRAIGHT TRYING-TO-BE ALLIES IT IS.
IT JUST AIN’T!
Ok… I feel better.
I know this is a conversation that has been done to death among my peers. I am sure if I looked I would find an article that will have been written more eloquently than this post will be. I am sure people will find holes in my reasoning. But… I still have to speak my mind (I don’t call this the K Word for nothing).
I really have no clue where to start so… how about here:
People can’t get married if they can’t afford to eat. Let me first say that I am not opposed to gay marriage, but in reality I am not a cheerleader of marriage regardless of the couple. I think marriage is nothing more than a fabricated BILLION DOLLAR institution to transfer responsibility from ones parents to ones mate, both emotionally and financially. I dig it, I understand it. I am not moved by it.
With that being said, I don’t believe the gay marriage equality movement is as nearly as “For Us Bout Us” as it is portrayed to be. If you think that these big dollar gays and lesbians are fighting to help the less fortunate among us… that’s cute. I am sure the fact that it helps them pass their wealth along to their equally wealthy spouses has nothing to do with it. Nope nothing to do with at all.
Let me be clear I don’t think that straight rich people should have more wealth passing loopholes that gay rich people… but I am a little bit more concerned that Black are twice as likely to be unemployed than whites (and have been for 60 years).
Yes Yes I know that was more about the color Green than the color Black so here’s another one for you to chew on…
George Zimmerman wouldn’t be free if Trayvon Martin was a bottom. Ok. Ok. Please fix your face back. I will explain myself if you haven’t already clicked off and unsubscribed from my posts. I don’t know why people were so surprised at the verdict. The crux of the case hinged on the statements from George Zimmerman that he felt threatened. The jury had to believe that George Zimmerman believed his life was in danger. Black men are scary, aren’t they? Then case closed.
I hate to be glib but everywhere you look black heterosexual men are portrayed as innately threatening and menacing. (Feel free to add: in comparison to homosexual men of any race, but I don’t think that is necessary). Even in cases where they are portrayed as upstanding citizens there is that “in spite of” clause. In spite of his upbringing, in spite of being raised in the south side of Chicago, in spite of… being black.
In contrast ,homosexual men are portrayed as effeminate and fragile (I’m not saying that is a truth, we are talking perception). They run from confrontation (unless hair pulling counts), and cower in fear when danger approaches. If the jury was made to deliberate whether George Zimmerman believed his life was in jeopardy when confronting a “fairy” as opposed to a “thug”, do you think there would have been a different verdict? At the very least a longer deliberation? If you even paused, you are proving my point.
*Breathe in, breathe out*
I felt a tangent coming on. I think I will have to write this in parts… Yep parts will have to do. Next part this time next year.
**And yes I know the people wearing the shirts that say “Gay is the New Black” are usually referring to it as being fashionable as opposed to Black to represent AA people**