Happy Sunday love bugs. Sorry I haven’t written in a few days but between work, a stomach bug and the Her Winter Party festivities, I haven’t been able to log on. But today is the day of rest and catchup.
I love this time of year. Over the last few years I have met some of my favorite lezzies at Her Winter Party. They all have come from different backgrounds, different places, but one thing has been pretty consistent… less than 10% were lesbians of color. It never really hit me until this year at Artscape. For those who don’t know what it is, it’s their opening event, which includes a silent art auction featuring the work of a variety of artists.
Unlike the party events that are wall to wall dancing lesbians, Artscape is more of a lounge atmosphere. You get to really talk to each other surrounded by beautiful women (and art). The best part this time was that the three musketeers were back together. Naty and I met our girl CB last year, and couldn’t wait for the gang to be together again.
It was like time hadn’t passed. We laughed, caught up, and reminisced about the year before. How did our friend affair begin? Last year the crew saw another woman of color sitting alone and bonded right on the spot. This year, it happened again. We met two ladies from Michigan, and a young girl from here and formed the BlackScape crew 2014. We had a freaking ball. But the question is: Why are all the black lesbians sitting in the cafeteria together*?
Why are we so happy to see “us” walk through the door? Why didn’t we gravitate to other couples that were alone? Would we have connected if we were in a room of women that looked like us? Would we have felt we need to? Of all the colors of the rainbow, is black always going to be the one that means the most?
*I am assuming that most people that read my blog have either read or heard of the book “Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria: And Other Conversations About Race” by Beverly Tatum. In the book, Tatum talks about self-segregation and race polarization mostly centered around children (great read for those in education field or ex-sociology majors).
Sidenote: If anyone just happens to know that hot lezzie named Lucy (I think) woman from LA that was here…. tell her I am sorry I missed the event Saturday… IJS