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The Bougiest Thing I Ever Bought… on Amazon

Hi Lovebugs!

Today I am sharing with you the bougiest[1] thing that I have ever purchased… on Amazon. It isn’t even expensive, it’s just the fact that I bought it that makes me say… really girl?

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KLife: 5 Best Things About the Super Bowl Opening Ceremonies

Happy Super Bowl Week Lovebugs!

We are in full on Super Week hysteria in Miami. The traffic is backing up, celebrities are touching down and parties are going all around. If you are a sports fan or music fan, this is the place to be.

I must say I am not the biggest football fan. I love a good tailgate and the atmosphere, but I am definitely not a die hard fan. So I wasn’t exactly sure what I was getting into when my friend Donna suggested we go to the Super Bowl opening night at the Marlins stadium to kick of Superbowl LIV. I knew I was going to have a good time with one of my great friends, but I was fully ready to be bored. Boy was I wrong! I had an absolute blast.

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KLife: YONI STEAMING

Hi Lovebugs,

Well I have written posts on here while all over the country, but today is definitely a first. I am coming to you live and in color from my… bathroom. Yeah fellas[1], this might not be the post for you because today I am writing about Yoni Steaming. Yes it is exactly what you think it is.

First things first, let’s discuss what yoni steaming is. Yoni steaming, which is also called vagina steaming, is kind of like a facial for your vagina. While you are sitting on a herb filled pot of hot (but not boiling) water, the steam rises through your lady parts and gives it a little pick me up. The herbs tone and rejuvenate your vajajay[2] inside and out.

Now I have heard of yoni steaming over the years a handful of times. This isn’t some new fad at all. Yoni steaming can be seen in different cultures for hundreds of years. Women all over the world use it as part of their self care routine. This time, I decided to actually give it a go. Marty mentioned it during one of our sister chats (along with April) and I knew it was a sign. The benefits of yoni steaming seemed great, with some that definitely peaked my interest.

Here are just a few.

  • Improve fertility.
  • Increase circulation and blood flow.
  • Cleanse the uterine lining of old blood.
  • Treat uterine fibroids, ovarian cysts, uterine weakness, uterine prolapse & endometriosis.
  • Improve period bleeding that is brown or black in colour.
  • Reduce period pain and discomfort
  • Helps to restore bacterial and PH balance to aid in prevention of infections, bacterial vaginosis and odor.
  • Detoxify your mind, body and soul

Before I get any further, and I am sure that most of you already know this BUT your vagina is self cleaning. So while this “cleanses”, your vagina doesn’t need any help.

71KYQjPbLTL._SX522_So off to Amazon I went for my Sew Right starter kit. I know I know there are herbalists and healers that create their own but I wanted to introduce it into my Sunday self care routine ASAP.

I chose the Female Rituals Steam Therapy (1 Ounce) package. The two reasons I went with this one was that a) it was the brand that Marty recommended and b) they had a small 1 oz offering (enough for 1-2 steams), so I could try them out.

As I write and steam, I can tell you some first impressions.  It smells really floral and has a calming effect that I like. Before I even sat down, the aroma took over my house. It is like a really fragrant herbal tea. The scent plus the steam are giving me a really relaxed feeling. The tensions of my week are melting away, if only for a minute. I can definitely see myself having a good rest after I finish this and my pamper day skincare routine[3].

61aux7Xu7gL._SX522_The second piece I bought for my kit was the Carex Sitz Bath.

Now you can use a pot and sit it in your toilet but… yeah that was a no for me. Or you can get really fancy and buy a Yoni Steam Chair but… while I am down to buy a bougie item or two for selfcare day… that was also a no for me.

This sitz bath sat right into my toilet with a vent space and once I am done I will be able to simply dispose of the herbs and wash it out for next time.

So here are the steps that I did.

  • Put the sitz bath in the toilet with half a package (1/2 an ounce of herbs)
  • Boiled water in my tea pot and poured the hot water into the mix.
  • Steep herbs for 10 minutes in the water
  • Grabbed a bottle of water so I didn’t get dehydrated and got undressed.
  • Covered myself with a blanket to keep in the steam and put my laptop on top
  • Blogged with you all in tow. (Next time I think I will read a book)
  • Steamed for about 20-25 minutes.
  • Disposed of the herbs and rinsed the sitz
  • Laying down with the rest of my water for a bit, finishing up this post and watching Living Single[4] on Hulu.

I plan to definitely incorporate yoni steaming into my moon cycles. They say to do it a week before your period (but definitely not while on your period). I am getting conflicting information about how often to do it, but I think for myself I would like to do it 2-3 times a month on my Sunday ritual. I feel so relaxed and in tune to “her” right now and I want to keep that going.

Have you ever done a Yoni Steam aka Vaginal Steaming? How did you like it? How do you incorporate it into your routine? Do you have any tips for someone using it? Comment below and tell me what you think. Can’t wait to hear from you!


[1]But you are definitely welcome to stay. We are all inclusive over here.

[2]I really should have included a drinking game where you have to take a shot every time I say ANY word equivalent to vagina.

[3]I will do that post next week maybe as part of the two part series.

[4]Just watched the episode where Kyle sang the draws off of Max. I so loved them.

“When in doubt… #give.”

Thank you to Anthony Jordon for his kind words and recap of my 2nd Annual Giveback Kickback!

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My Words, My View

That was the start to the invitation for the 2nd annual Giveback Kickback And BBQ, coordinated by birthday girl, journal entrepreneur and great friend Kristi King. This style maven and socially conscious individual started her annual tradition in 2015 where she invites friends to “kickback” with a birthday cook out, while encouraging attendees to bring a specific number of items for donation to the needy. The number corresponds to her age (which I’m not sharing because it’s rude to share a woman’s age without her permission) :).

“No presents requested but we will be making…care packages for the area homeless.”

This no doubt was beyond a feel good moment, sharing good times, food and fellowship with newcomers and some previously familiar faces. Thank you Kristi for being you; the inspiration and a caregiver within out unique world. We need more examples like you to shine on. Check out the…

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I Don’t Want to Be a Hashtag…

So I am sitting here in Starbucks illegally downloading movies on piratebay enjoying my iced coconut milk il_570xN.1051635703_ahhqcaramel macchiato this fine Sunday morning and felt a crazy wave of frustration come over me. If you are my FB friend you have seen spurts of these in the last month… they are usually 4 sentence long with some form of witty wordplay to protect my non-POC friends from being uncomfortable.

Because you know making non-POC people feel comfortable is the responsibility  of every “good black person” to combat the scariness of those angry radical ones… 

Sigh…. I am angry. I am still angry. I am angry that a week ago (the night after the Dallas shooting) I was in genuine fear for my life.  Continue reading I Don’t Want to Be a Hashtag…

KTravel: Solo Trip to #AfroPunk… The Great, The More Great, and the Well….

Ok so I am writing this post while on fumes because I am afraid that if I try to write it after I wake up from the haze all the good stuff will be gone. I just had an amazing weekend in New York. Like slightly south of epic. I flew into New York for the Afropunk concert festival (more about that in 5 seconds) all by my lonesome.  Now I will be going on and on about how dope it was for me to be flying by myself and doing the trip solo but to be honest I was supposed to be meeting my ex there, but she got sick. No not that ex… or that ex… but that one… Awww yeah her. We rekindled our friendship over an OKcupid mishap…

screeeeeeeeeeeech

I wasn’t going to write about this here…. because I actually forgot until this moment. BUT what in the hell is in the drinking water? In the last two- three months I have two different exes contact me to tell me that “friends” of mine have tried to hook up with them on the lowdown sneaky sly. WHO DOES THAT??? Well obviously these broads do… I mean I know I date dope chicks and the dating pool is shallow nowadays but GET YOUR LIFE… NOT MINE.

Ok I’m back. Well yeah I was supposed to meet her in NY but she got sick the day before so I was like “F*ck it” I’m out! I am sooooo glad I did. Continue reading KTravel: Solo Trip to #AfroPunk… The Great, The More Great, and the Well….