Sex and the Single-ish Life… or What Wet Dreams May Come

sex.jpgIf you follow me on twitter, you will know two things for sure. I revel in irreverence and I haven’t had sex since my 20s.

Don’t make that face. It is a mix of a long winded end to a LDR and a celibate period of self-discovery… or that’s what I tell myself. Hell even before my self imposed drought, my last few relationships were long distance. So the plan was clear when it came to knocking boots. If we are together in the same city, let alone the same bed, IT IS GOING DOWN. Boom-chicka-waa-waa. Continue reading

Tale of Two Prospects: The Drunk Dial Test

So I have been getting to know two OkCupid women lately 1. They both spoke to me in different ways2 and both know about this blog so I will keep my descriptions realllll cute.

Prospect 1: Masculine identified. Too cool for school. Successful in a high level LGBT related career. I am sure is hot shit in her circle. Great initial chemistry… now not so sure. She may or may not be that into me, and ambiguity makes me sleepy.

Prospect 2: Feminine identified. My mom would love her… if she were a man. Genuinely good person. Community based profession. Family oriented. No sparks at first (thought she would be a great friend)… now not so sure. I might just be that into her.

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Odd Lez Out: When Did Everyone I Know Get Hitched?

Now let me say this first, I am not bitter. I am happy for all of those people that have found love (or a good substitute). I will use my frequent flyer miles for your NYC nuptials. I will hold your hair back at your bachelorette parties. I will even prepare a speech for the rehearsal dinner. I am happy happy happy FOR YOU.

Too much?

I’m just saying… when did all these life-long attachments occur? Did I miss a memo? It seems like once we hit 30…ish every lesbian has to couple up in order to make it through the winter of their lives. That came out a bit darker than I thought it would… Continue reading

Life without the Planet: KWord Guide to Lesbian @Meetup Groups

Gay MeetupAs most of us know, in the last few years, the lesbian “scene” has shifted from a familial/clannish one to one heavily integrated** into the mainstream. Long gone are the good old days of a lesbian bar. Kit has probably sold the Planet, Maud’s has had its last call, and the Palms… ok well it is still around. Scratch the Palms.

For many of us, if you want to meet a nice lezzie (or two) you have to hit up one of the monthly events by your local lesbian promoter, or put your networking skills on hyperdrive at annual events like Pride, Her WinterParty, Sweet Heat or Aqua Girl. You could be like me and start your own dinner club with likeminded lesbians… but there has to be another way right? It’s the digital age, how do we find fellow digital lezzies?

As an answer to those questions, it seems like has turned into (literally There are over a thousand lesbian meetup groups around the world, from Sapphic Adventures in Chicago to Gay Geek Meetups in the UK.

So the question shifts from, how do I find lesbian groups to how do I find the right lesbian groups for me? We came up with a couple of tips for you.


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