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KListen: @TiffanyGouche “Fantasy”

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Tiffany. Tiffany. Tiffany. Where have you been all my life?

*  head shaking and mouth pursed  *

You just spoke life into my whole existence… four years after this song released.

Cali native, Tiffany Gouché is a legit musical phenom. She has worked with a little bit of everyone from Ty Dolla $ign to Jill Scott to mutha Lauryn Hill.

And if you know you know her, but don’t know why you know her, she was a part of the Black and Sexy TV webseries back in the day as well.

But that is all very 2010s, let’s get into now.

When I started listening to this song today…and let the record show I have listened to it twice, I was shooketh. The visuals and movement took me to a place I needed to be. I thoroughly enjoyed the dance homage to the ORIGINAL She’s Got to Have It (intentional or not) that had me grooving at my desk.

The message was timeless. Haven’t we all had that friend that we know is just a friend… but you want to tell your fantasies to? Just me? shrugs

Take a look. Take a listen. What do you think? Continue reading KListen: @TiffanyGouche “Fantasy”

KLife: YONI STEAMING

Hi Lovebugs,

Well I have written posts on here while all over the country, but today is definitely a first. I am coming to you live and in color from my… bathroom. Yeah fellas[1], this might not be the post for you because today I am writing about Yoni Steaming. Yes it is exactly what you think it is.

First things first, let’s discuss what yoni steaming is. Yoni steaming, which is also called vagina steaming, is kind of like a facial for your vagina. While you are sitting on a herb filled pot of hot (but not boiling) water, the steam rises through your lady parts and gives it a little pick me up. The herbs tone and rejuvenate your vajajay[2] inside and out.

Now I have heard of yoni steaming over the years a handful of times. This isn’t some new fad at all. Yoni steaming can be seen in different cultures for hundreds of years. Women all over the world use it as part of their self care routine. This time, I decided to actually give it a go. Marty mentioned it during one of our sister chats (along with April) and I knew it was a sign. The benefits of yoni steaming seemed great, with some that definitely peaked my interest.

Here are just a few.

  • Improve fertility.
  • Increase circulation and blood flow.
  • Cleanse the uterine lining of old blood.
  • Treat uterine fibroids, ovarian cysts, uterine weakness, uterine prolapse & endometriosis.
  • Improve period bleeding that is brown or black in colour.
  • Reduce period pain and discomfort
  • Helps to restore bacterial and PH balance to aid in prevention of infections, bacterial vaginosis and odor.
  • Detoxify your mind, body and soul

Before I get any further, and I am sure that most of you already know this BUT your vagina is self cleaning. So while this “cleanses”, your vagina doesn’t need any help.

71KYQjPbLTL._SX522_So off to Amazon I went for my Sew Right starter kit. I know I know there are herbalists and healers that create their own but I wanted to introduce it into my Sunday self care routine ASAP.

I chose the Female Rituals Steam Therapy (1 Ounce) package. The two reasons I went with this one was that a) it was the brand that Marty recommended and b) they had a small 1 oz offering (enough for 1-2 steams), so I could try them out.

As I write and steam, I can tell you some first impressions.  It smells really floral and has a calming effect that I like. Before I even sat down, the aroma took over my house. It is like a really fragrant herbal tea. The scent plus the steam are giving me a really relaxed feeling. The tensions of my week are melting away, if only for a minute. I can definitely see myself having a good rest after I finish this and my pamper day skincare routine[3].

61aux7Xu7gL._SX522_The second piece I bought for my kit was the Carex Sitz Bath.

Now you can use a pot and sit it in your toilet but… yeah that was a no for me. Or you can get really fancy and buy a Yoni Steam Chair but… while I am down to buy a bougie item or two for selfcare day… that was also a no for me.

This sitz bath sat right into my toilet with a vent space and once I am done I will be able to simply dispose of the herbs and wash it out for next time.

So here are the steps that I did.

  • Put the sitz bath in the toilet with half a package (1/2 an ounce of herbs)
  • Boiled water in my tea pot and poured the hot water into the mix.
  • Steep herbs for 10 minutes in the water
  • Grabbed a bottle of water so I didn’t get dehydrated and got undressed.
  • Covered myself with a blanket to keep in the steam and put my laptop on top
  • Blogged with you all in tow. (Next time I think I will read a book)
  • Steamed for about 20-25 minutes.
  • Disposed of the herbs and rinsed the sitz
  • Laying down with the rest of my water for a bit, finishing up this post and watching Living Single[4] on Hulu.

I plan to definitely incorporate yoni steaming into my moon cycles. They say to do it a week before your period (but definitely not while on your period). I am getting conflicting information about how often to do it, but I think for myself I would like to do it 2-3 times a month on my Sunday ritual. I feel so relaxed and in tune to “her” right now and I want to keep that going.

Have you ever done a Yoni Steam aka Vaginal Steaming? How did you like it? How do you incorporate it into your routine? Do you have any tips for someone using it? Comment below and tell me what you think. Can’t wait to hear from you!


[1]But you are definitely welcome to stay. We are all inclusive over here.

[2]I really should have included a drinking game where you have to take a shot every time I say ANY word equivalent to vagina.

[3]I will do that post next week maybe as part of the two part series.

[4]Just watched the episode where Kyle sang the draws off of Max. I so loved them.

Tips to a Big Fun/Small Budget Trip to Turks and Caicos #KKDays

Yes my log in still works… whew.

I know… I know. I have been slacking on my blogging. There have been a lot of new developments in the world according to Kristi that I hope to share with you guys soon.

We just back this weekend from a really relaxing time in Providenciales, Turks and Caicos so I wanted to share some tips.

Turks and Caicos has the reputation of being a very expensive island to visit. We read stories of people having to take out loans for sunscreen and selling plasma to pay for drinks at the bar. While that wasn’t our experience, I can see how that happens.  We did extremely well sticking to our budget but it was definitely a plan. Continue reading Tips to a Big Fun/Small Budget Trip to Turks and Caicos #KKDays

2016 National LGBT POC Health Conference (Albany, NY: October 2016)

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In Our Own Voices, would like to extend an invitation for you to attend: 2016 National LGBT POC Health Conference, Unity Through Diversity: The Power of Unity. This event will take place October 12-15, 2016 at the Desmond Hotel and Conference Center, in Albany, New York. The Power of Unity brings you towards a more holistic, inclusive and intersectional movement that includes advocating for social justice for the LGBT people of color communities.
Continue reading 2016 National LGBT POC Health Conference (Albany, NY: October 2016)

KREAD: Pat Greene: Her Story by ANONDRA “KAT” WILLIAMS

41locwguhBL Well well well, here’s another one and another one. Yes I am pretending I am a rapper instead of a blogger… and what?

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Like most series on this blog, I haven’t written a KRead review in a while. But seeing that today is National Book Day, I decided to get back on the proverbial horse.

This is actually the second book I will be reviewing by Anondra “Kat” Williams. Way back when I read her first offering black girl love. For those who haven’t read it, it is an extremely sensual experience… hmm… that I might have to relive.

Fast forward five years to her newest work, Pat Greene: Her Story. I must admit, this book has been languishing in my Amazon Kindle queue for a while, but I am very happy I finally read it.

Plot Snapshot: The coming of age story of Pat Greene, a black lesbian everywoman, filled with love, loss and a little lust.

Continue reading KREAD: Pat Greene: Her Story by ANONDRA “KAT” WILLIAMS

SUPER GAY MOVIE REVIEW OF THE WEEK: SHE HATE ME

She-Hate-Me-images-239543a1-f71e-401a-af1f-aa47a26f560Ok so don’t let me lie to the universe (me included) and say I will be blogging everyday but I am definitely proud of myself with this two day in a row track record.

I haven’t  done a Super Gay Movie Review in a looooong time. I actually didn’t have any plans on doing one today until I saw that it is the 26th anniversary of Mo Betta Blues.

I LOVE THAT MOVIE!!!1

While reminiscing over all my favorite Spike Lee movies a vision of Kerry Washington’s pre-Scandal, fine as frog legs, extra big succulent lips having self flickered in my mind.

sigh

That’s pretty much all it took to get my CREATIVE juices flowing, so with that being said..

NOW WATCHING: She Hate Me directed by Spike Lee

Continue reading SUPER GAY MOVIE REVIEW OF THE WEEK: SHE HATE ME